Woodstock is a bird. Birds love rain! He probably didn’t ask Snoopy for help staying dry.
Help requires permission. A person needs to ask for the help they’d like to receive. A pet needs to allow help to be dispensed. If someone is not of sound mind, they still need to cooperate to receive assistance.
My sister had a recent encounter with a woman who offered her emotional help when she had no idea that there was a need. Basically, this woman projected her own desire to prove herself helpful by suggesting to my sister an unrecognized problem. You can imagine how this went over. Nothing feels better than someone pointing out a problem you didn’t know you had. The woman went on to explain that since she had reached the highest level of spirituality, being a Buddist, she was equipped to help.
To my mind, the highest level of spirituality is death. And I’ve never heard the Dalai Llama tell people how spiritually evolved he was so he that could better insert himself into a problem.
Help requires trust. Trust requires rapport. To build rapport, safety should be offered.
I’ve never easily asked for help. I was raised in a DIY mindset. But I’m learning. And I’m also learning not to shove my way into another’s mess when help was not requested. Sometimes people need to learn how to help themselves, which helps others mind their own business.
I came across this very topic early on my FB feed this morning. How helpful!
“Help is the sunny side of control.” Anne Lamott
If you’d like to listen to her 15 minute Ted Talk, it’s more about life than the writing title suggests.
When is the last time you saw a decent contemporary movie without adult language and sex?
This low-budget film didn’t get any great reviews, probably because it wasn’t full of FX or what the industry considers to be high-concept. The plot was simple and solid if you stuck with it.
Our hero wants to break the mind-numbing monotony of his print shop job. Specifically, he wants to capture evidence of paranormal activity for a contest to get on a popular ghost hunting show. But he can’t do it alone, and doesn’t have any equipment. He manages to recruit other loser types to help, one of whom helps borrow/shoplift the equipment from the big box store where he works.
Following procedures from the television show (ingeniously fictionalized by a couple of the actual Ghost Hunters), the clueless team investigates a dilapidated property owned by one of the copy guy’s customers, without permission.
I won’t spoil anything except to say that all the paranormal activity they capture leads them to a far more dangerous discovery. And it takes every member of the team facing their insecurities and weaknesses to help them get out alive.
If you watch any of the ghost-hunting shows, you’ll enjoy the parallels without having to suffer through gratuitous sex and language.
I have been MIA this month learning DIY publishing. I won’t bore you with details. I will only say that I had no idea that this morning I would find my ebook had been released when I thought I had a preview window.
Life happens while you’re making other plans, right? I can bear it because it’s a perfect time for a rock and roll beach read.
Here’s the link. :
FREE right now if you have Kindle Unlimited. And if you do, please don’t forget to post a review afterward. I would really love and appreciate that.
I had hoped to have a print book ready to release at the same time, but Amazon had other ideas. I’ll return to regular scheduled posts once I have released that into the wild.
Hope your summer is cooking nicely with food, fun, and frivolity.