When No One Hears You

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Ever have times when you need someone to listen to your thoughts, your ideas, or your problems and you feel as if you are talking to a wall? You are met with resistance and offered explanations on why your thoughts, ideas, and problems are not real or true? You hear the word “no” a lot.

While your friends and family mean well, they don’t always listen. Oh, they hear select words and begin formulating responses before you are finished talking. They stop listening at a certain point and focus on that alone without hearing you out completely. Hurt feelings develop because you feel shut out, your thoughts and feelings are not important enough for full consideration.

Often, we just want to be heard. We don’t require advice or approval. We just need validation that our thoughts, ideas, or problems are worthy of someone’s time and attention. When we are not heard, we retreat into a tower of our own design, either a prison or a haven, to bandage our wounded heads and hearts.

Boo hoo, poor you. What can you do?

Talk louder?  Throw a temper tantrum like a spoiled child?

I write things out as if there is a fly on the wall reading it. I think perhaps we might just be working too hard to be heard by the wrong people. Maybe it’s prudent to move down another path and encounter new people. Maybe we should sit with ourselves instead of leaning on others to make it better. Maybe a shift in perspective is in order.

This morning I watched a young doe wander around the pasture behind my house looking lost. I watched her for about fifteen minutes. I put myself in her place, alone in the rain looking for which direction to head without another for guidance. She circled a small area and stared right at me for several minutes.

“What do I do? Which way to I go? Where are others like me?”

Being lost and alone is a temporary state. And the only way to find others like you is to move and continue to search. And the rain. (How I prayed for it though our painfully dry summer! Now we are getting too much.) But rain is cleansing. It washes everything and brings new growth. Clean slate, so to speak.

So, what if no one hears you? If you are quiet enough, you might hear that still small voice. “Psst. Over here.” And you’ll move in that direction, in a new mindset with a new perspective. Because remaining rooted in one perspective won’t help you to be heard.

 

 

 

 

Menehune – Man or Mystical Myth?

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The Finding Bigfoot team went in search of Cryptomundo or Menehune (aka Little Foot), which falls into the Bigfoot family of. Menehune is considered to be a 3-foot tall or smaller manlike creature in Kauai. They are speculated to be descended from the original Marquesan settlers of Hawaii from the sixth century, before the arrival of the Polynesians. Shy, but welcoming, one theory has foreigners driving them back into the forest. Legend describes muscular little fireplugs with magical powers like leprechauns capable of building large structures and bridges overnight. They appear to be ape-looking people who wear loin cloths. Other reports make them appear more creature-like than human.

The items I dug up online was mere speculation.

http://moveto-hawaii.com/legend-menehune-solved-ruined/

Silly mockumentary:

Sightings continue to this day. And one report claimed that the 1820’s census included 65 Menehune residents.

Another legend says that a prince and princess were caught spying on them and the Menehune turned them into stone. (I know a couple people I wouldn’t mind turning to stone, ya?)

Intrigued?

 

WWW – Arethusa and Argillaceous

Arethusa. Not the Greek Goddess “The Waterer” who left sea water for a fountain of fresh water…

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Not the Arethusa Dairy Farm…

But arethusa, the orchid, also known as Dragon’s Mouth or Swamp Pink.

An Orchid! Undoubtedly named after the goddess.

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Then what about argillaceous? That is something that resembles or contains clay. The word itself sounds like something awesome, as does anything ending in ous. Yummy.

How about an argillaceous arethusa? Fire up the kiln for the Waterer!

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WWW – Stomatopod

Any of various marine crustaceans of the order Stomatopoda, which includes squilla.

What’s a squilla? Mantis shrimp.

Squilla mantis

Looks like a lobster wearing a headdress of a fly with deer antlers. Creepy looking, but I’m betting tasty with clarified butter.

Yes, I’m having shrimp for dinner. I’m not sure why eating something that looks like a bug doesn’t bother me, yet anything with big eyes and fur bugs me. I do eat mammals, but not ones I have to look in the eye first. Really wish I didn’t have to, but my genetics dictate. I tried to be a vegetarian once and got pretty ill, even before I passed out and got a concussion on the Terrazo floor. My doctor said, “Bad idea with your blood.”

On a snowy day, a little stomatopod soup will go down nicely.

 

 

 

WWW: Dobsonfly

Not only is it a weird word, but it is a weird bug that has four large, many-veined wings. Get a load of this creepy-crawly.

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I have never heard of one or seen one before. Elegant in shape, but I wouldn’t want one to land on me! If you want to read more about them, the folks over at Real Monstrosities have done an article. http://www.realmonstrosities.com/2011/01/dobsonfly.html

Fortunately, they only measure a few inches long and not a few feet. Visions of Mothman come to mind.

My first thought when I saw the word was a former co-worker named Dobson. “Fly Dobson, Fly!” Like “Run, Forest, Run!” And he would have to flee from a bug with prongs like those.

Anyone seen a live one?

 

Weird Word of the Week Series

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Since I wrapped my last novel, I’ve been riding The Lazy Train when it comes to writing. Four years on a project is a long time! I need to do some shorter stuff that will help me ease from the steps into the deep end of the pool. Inspired by a tattoo artist who was advised to draw like crazy to develop a portfolio before she ever picked up an ink gun, I am trying a similar move with words. (And I know Julie Powell did this with cooking a few years back which started as a blog, then turned into a book, then a movie. You just never know the possibilities.)

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I will scour various sources for words that I consider weird and will post short thoughts about them. Who knows what will come out? I’ll keep it brief. Then I will crown the Weird Word of the Week.  I’d considered doing this daily, because I like the idea of a regimen, but wasn’t sure how many weird words I would encounter. And, let’s face it, Word of the Day has been done to death.

Alpha helix is weird, and two words. Defined, a spatial configuration of many protein molecules in which . . . I stopped reading because unless I were writing about a scientist, I would never have an opportunity to use such a word, much less understand it. (I would have to call my sister, the physics teacher.)

My husband has had the word nosegay in this pocket since the 7th grade. It is a small bouquet of flowers. In this century sounds like a slur, or a pharmaceutical.

Alright . . .

Is alright weird? It might be apropos. See how I’m easing in? Okay, it’s a rubber life raft that’s almost as large as the pool. If you stay with me, it will get better.

I do think it is odd to either be alright or all right. The shorter alright is used mainly in dialogue and considered incorrect in formal writing. Whereas all right is higher brow and scholarly. My writing critique group has landed on me more than a couple of times about that.

Many folks are waking up this New Year’s morning to say, “Alright. Today I start the __________ (diet, workout, regimen, project, new attitude toward humanity).”

Me? I’m adding Weird Word of the Week to my already odd repertoire. You know if it’s strange and unusual I’ve got to move closer to it.

Alright?

Enjoy the final day of your holiday.

 

Mr. “Alright. Alright. Alright.”

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